Reddit aita ruined wedding Hi, everyone I need some input because I feel very conflicted. She never made restitution for the dress she ruined. I don’t know what to do AITA? (Edit please stop asking about my mom. Lots went down, and I am getting flack for my dress. AITA? My intention was not to fuck is their wedding just get them to be more respectful. At this point, the dinner's ruined. And so is your husband. She was taken aback that I didn’t end up attending his wedding. Having a one night stand in your early twenties with someone who at a wedding shortly after proved he was a dick doesn't really make her an asshole especially as OP specifies David is the one who wants Mike and OP to get back together, and doesn That said, if people start investing their interests in B during the wedding celebration, someone should be able to redirect interest back to A. And similar. My sister texted me and said that I’ve ruined her wedding. I kind of get both perspectives. NTA - you are not the one dying on this hill. I might have compromised my relationship with him since it was his wedding and it was a big deal to him. These people were incredibly rude, and absolutely should have been asked to leave. Taking this story at face value, some cities have programs to coordinate with restaurants and grocery stores to pick up food and get it on ice immediately to serve that day or the next. My fiancèe likes this stuff. Ex and I have been separated for about 6 yrs. Sep 28, 2024 · A man has been defended after his niece accused him of ruining her big day because he refused to pay for her entire wedding. We paid for our food and went home. My sister in law wont talk to me and my mother in law has been repeatedly calling me and demanding I apologize. Let's assume Pam's a friend of the bride and groom, or at least friendly with them. Memes allowed, shitposts only on weekends. I couldn’t imagine her sitting alone, while her kid’s attended their father’s wedding. My reputation destroyed. Throwaway because my sister uses Reddit My (19F) sister (26F) got married last month, I was overjoyed when she asked me to be one of her bridesmaids, I didn’t know any of the other bridesmaids, but I met all of them when we were helping her wedding dress shop, when we were getting our bridesmaids dresses, my sister made a comment about how the dress looked weird on me because I was too Posted by u/throwaway343156197 - 21,290 votes and 1,630 comments The next day she got back to me and sent me a text that she couldn't believe how dude and inappropriate i was. This was not a gift for you, it was an attention grab for them. 7 years ago I was married and expecting a baby when things went horribly wrong. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. Debbie felt like that was attention seeking. And people who try to play the "it's my wedding, my choice" need to understand choices have consequences, because other people aren't props for your special day. Instead of making a scene at the wedding, I made friends with the guy even while blindly drunk. Your brother is, and he's involving the rest of the family. When all the drama happened, the bride accused OP of ruining the wedding by rubbing things in Ex’s face even tho she was repeatedly warned about the potential awkwardness. He can propose the day after my wedding, but not on my wedding. Agree! This should be a conversation between you and your fiance. How many professional photos and videos have been ruined by wedding guests getting in the way with their own phones to take pictures/video? I think it would be ok for parents to have their cells on vibrate during dinner, especially if it's a long wedding service like a full-on mass or something. I don’t know if it was by mistake but instead of texting the photographer directly like she’s done for the past few months she texted him to our old iMessage chat. Ask them how exactly this was a gift for you. Because we aren't the ones rocking the boat. I went to my sister and she said she used "their real name". With how mixed families are these days, the cultural rules differ a lot so it’s always best to check what the unwritten rules are for the wedding you’re attending. OP's SiL ruined her own marriage and OP just provided the last pebble to initiate the big ol' landslide. Help keep the sub engaging! The wedding was amazing and everything went smoothly. For context, my material cousin, B, got married this weekend. My nephew even ruined my dress, I am a fashion designer and made my own wedding dress and one day my sister came over uninvited with my nephew YTA. *Not to mention, my wedding was probably the last time I'll see my 97 year old grandma. Though I still do love him and I'm wondering If I really was to hard on him, that seems to be everyone else's opinion. Please do not give the ring back if you can! You are a strong individual. The cake got all over. He ruined my makeup, my hair and the top of my dress. That is TERRIBLE. And "seeing my daughter figure put on my wedding dress" is kinda a special moment op could reasonably expect to happen to with her, the bride. ETA: She ruined her own wedding, and you had nothing to do with it. Don’t let your folks push you into paying to keep the peace, what Posted by u/Impossible-Honey-902 - 6,442 votes and 646 comments The wedding being ruined isn't anything to do with her. I left my son's wedding after learning that he had denied his stepmom a mother-son dance. well, when this other couple decided to get married they asked my husband to be in the bridal party and not me - which is a little hurtful but not a Oct 14, 2024 · NTA!! This Family Comes First shit is really getting on my nerves!! Your brother was NOT thinking family first when he ruined your engagement party. My husband and I never have discussed redoing the wedding because you can’t. The first Christmas we had at my home when my kids were young was ruined because my in-laws were late. Posted by u/Daquii - 20,961 votes and 4,435 comments I felt absolutely awful because my wedding was being interrupted by them making scenes. My friend Ciara (22F) was attending my wedding. She said she couldn’t believe I would go out of my way to ruin her wedding the way I did. OP and A should make their wedding party aware that if they see something, they should say something. It’s something they can do as a couple. Wow, idk if I’ve read such an out of touch post on AITA… ever. Not only that, he ruined a 500 dollar cake. Unfortunately there is no possible way for Anna to attend where the wedding is not ruined. Mistake number one. You got married, didn't you? So your wedding was an unqualified success. She's seen people she cares about have a day that is both a) hugely emotionally significant and b) likely hugely economically significant ruined by these dudes. My bf's uncomfortable, I'm pissed, and the entire restaurant is staring at our table because Emily's practically screaming. If you actually believed that you wouldn't have freaked out like you did with (Partners) past. It sounds like this wedding was pretty small but still, you never know exactly what went into planning. Aug 21, 2024 · She has been married twice and i was the flower girl at the first wedding (when i was 5) and a "bridesmaid" at the second (a very casual wedding that no one knew was a wedding until we got there, i was 17 at the time). " A very precious life moment getting ruined because some family members don't realise that his wedding day does not revolve around them. His decision to uninvite and then reinvite his sister with 4 weeks' notice for an overseas wedding was ridiculous. She can't attend my wedding and even though everything is already booked and we had some guests flying in for the wedding, I just can't have it without her. His sister and I dated for 6 years and then she screwed me over and is now married to the guy she did that with. I told her how important it was to us that this birthday be special to my son since it would be the first one he remembered, and now all he would remember was that his cousin ruined his special moment. I might be the asshole because they are my parents and I love them, but I want just one day that is important to me not to be wrecked by them being loud and obnoxious. " There's an old saying that goes, "With a friend like this who needs enemies. NTA. The wedding is done and redoing it doesn’t erase the shitty memory. Truthfully OP'd be within their rights to charge for more than the replacement cost here, not less, because unlike a cheese board, more than the item was stolen / destroyed: they could charge for wedding pictures needing to be rescheduled and redone, and the time and cost for same to their bridal party as well; cost of alterations to both dresses; emotional impact; and, oh, y'know, S specified NTA - Using another person's wedding to announce your own "big news" is always an AH move. But not actually writing the card. The wedding color scheme was dark blue and she requested fancy attire, so I thought my dark blue dress would be fine. Shit, my husband uses the tapping to break the family into music night. Everything else can wait until tomorrow. Apparently, there was some essential footage Shirley wanted to get at the beginning of the ceremony, and it was now ruined because Mary was somewhere else. Your sister is too much. This is not something they can do at their wedding. She said the wedding events had been horrific and Bella was a monster and she was planning on going no contact now that it was done. Fortunately she purchased it at the same bridal shop as the bride and the shop told the bride about it. She has already tried to ruin my wedding once by blabbing something that isn't an issue. Ours was eating pizza with all our friends and family who wanted to show up to our house. Turns out my grandparents were paying for the wedding. You can't tell me to let bygones be bygones after all of the drama she just caused. 5K votes, 77 comments. So the bride switched her own dress to a lovely blush pink and had all of her bridesmaids wear white gowns. 2) I might be the ah for leaving the wedding suddenly and making a scene instead of just bringing it up later with my son. You shared this online with strangers on Reddit who all can tell you, your "family" are huge As. well, when this other couple decided to get married they asked my husband to be in the bridal party and not me - which is a little hurtful but not a It was her sitting their emotionless said I was completely out of hand and that I ruined her wedding. I don't think I'm the AH, but I submit myself to reddit's judgment. Sharing her story to Reddit's r/AmItheA***** (AITA) sub, user u Don't rock the boat. My life in tatters. 15 votes, 38 comments. It's the crazy lady jumping up and down and running side to side. You need to decide what's more important to you. Either way what’s done is A man revealed he disinvited his sister from his wedding after she ruined the romantic proposal he planned. So AITA? Relevant Comments: When we sat down at our table, the card "Nia". My brother told everyone he was paying for everything himself but nope. The reason why is because my nephew is out of control, he doesn't listen, can't sit still for even a minute and is loud. (You are not alone!) See reddit: Raised By Narcissists. " She excluded herself not only from your wedding but your life. It sucks. Proposing at a wedding is idiotic. My mom still calls me a brat for that. When I tried to explain I wasn’t trying to ruin her wedding I was just really hurt she didn’t tell me I wasn’t going to be her maid of honor. My mother has called me and told me that even though she understands I lacked compassion and have severely hurt my SILs feelings. Jun 27, 2023 · A woman has been advised to ditch her "crazy" boyfriend after he planned a surprise wedding without her knowledge. That way in case the card for the tag is misplaced or lost you still have an idea of who sent what to personalize the thank you cards. “AITA For demanding my fiancé and his mom to pay for a new wedding address?” The Original Poster (OP) explained what happened to the wedding dress. MIL/FIL ask if they can stay with us the week of the wedding, we EDIT 2 - I was in the wedding party of one of my closest friends. Having to worry about Ian's behavior leading up to the wedding is obviously already causing anxiety and then if he did do something day of I'm sure that would leave a bad taste after. Jack and I decided to have an immediate family only wedding. She said we were ruining her wedding, and I told her that we would do better on her next one. They have both been great with Anna’s behavior in the past, but like OP says, when it becomes too much they have to leave to get her to stop. Tapping ftw! She attended a wedding a few years ago, presumably for friends or family, that was completely ruined. There's better ways to piss off an ex than to blow up at them lol. I had a crazy wedding on a similar level to the OPs. " She continued, writing, “I told him [her husband-to-be] if he ever did something like Their wedding was beautiful but my SIL couldn't afford her dream dress because it was too expensive (it was a designer dress) and had to settle for the cheaper option. A place to satirize, crosspost from, poke fun at, and hold meta discussions on the never-ending ridiculous stories and creative writing exercises from AITA and AITA-adjacent subs, including classic tales of your local reddit heroes seeking validation. We are an Indian family, and A's husband M (26M) is white, so there were two ceremonies, like the Jonas-Chopra wedding. I told her me and the boys are leaving and she told me "don't you dare cause a scene at MY WEDDING, Nia can be a guy any other day". My wife was hurt beyond measure but the women in the family were pissed. Recently, Ciara was getting married and I was obviously invited. 12M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. The 50th time when he asked me i said, not only can't he propose at my wedding, but he can't even come to my wedding. As with most reddit stories, it's hard to believe there was enough leftover food from a wedding to feed another wedding party. Since day one she tried to make remarks and compare me to her ??. If kids are tapping fingers or feet at our wedding I’d be peaked. YTA. Invitations are not mandatory attendance. He ‘met’ his wife… The mood was already ruined with her awkward speech interrupting my husband and I's first dance together. Imagine feeling like you (even temporarily) ruined your mom’s relationship with her sister because you showed up somewhere you were unwanted. My food was ruined from sitting out, my kids were monsters because they had only snacked, I was angry and made everyone uncomfortable when they finally arrived. Very manipulative of OP to just call it a pretty dress when she knew full well what she was doing. You just created the final impetus. Yeah, I know people sometimes make bad decisions but I would be devastated if I accidentally ruined a friend's dress on the day of her wedding, even if it didn't have this level of emotional value. Op, you have every right time be angry, and even more of a right to exclude him! If your family believes in family first, they must also believe in " Your Wedding, Your Rules" because you're family. If she told me i wasnt invited to her wedding and i was being selfish, i would have been devastated. So AITA for 'ruining' her wedding?! I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Well i didn't agree with that and haven't spoken since. You need to take care of yourself. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! She was supposed to be the maid of honor at my wedding, but she delivered the news that the doctor told her she had a miscarriage. Wth is wrong with your fiancé?! You do not want the person who literally wanted to ruin your wedding dress at your wedding and he said YOU took it too far? Dudeeeeee. My wedding dress, my flowers, my shoes, my makeup and my jewellery. "Today is for celebrating A & OP. She fucked up and ruined her own wedding by letting another man, who isn't her fiance, sleep in the bed with her. Regardless of whatever OP did wrong and how we want to frame her character as a result, the aunt is a monumental asshole in my book. I recommend the OP bring up a vacation and vow renewal as an option. "I'm worried I'm ruining a lifelong friendship. Aug 20, 2024 · Mother criticized after son ‘ruined’ bride’s wedding cake by taking a bite before it was cut ‘Your child is very young and in need of supervision,’ one person responds on Reddit Amber Raiken We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. The most naughty thing that happened was an old friend who had been vegetarian forever ate chicken pizza. Just because you think its ok doesn't make it ok. true. We have been together since we were 15. “Mike has been making silly, lighthearted jokes that involving Joey's bio parents as a way to mess with Ethan and his wife. In a recent post shared to the popular “Am I The A**hole?” Reddit And then she said that if I don't do this, I will ruin her wedding and won't be welcome at the ceremony. Taking the posts seriously is heavily discouraged. Not even to show her pictures of the potential bridesmaid dresses she's gonna be wearing? I could not help myself I called her and exploded adding that she was not going to be in my bridal party and that she has ruined my wedding. The next day they went off to their honeymoon. I didn't see it but I was told it was a spaghetti strap dress. AITA - my husband and I have been friends with another couple for several years and have done everything together. That she didn't like my behavior and that i ruined her wedding day. I was one of the guests and she seemed happy. “Me 26 F[emale] and my fiancé 28 M[ale] been engaged for 4 months, we’re planning on having our wedding on October 18th, My future mother in law kept annoying me and sending me suggestions It’s scandalous to wear red at a wedding. That is the most laid back, reasonable wedding rule I have ever heard come out of Reddit. I (25F) am about to get married to my fiance (28M) and we already got the wedding list down, however my sister (25F, Irish twin) just rejected my invitation cause apparently she doesn't believe she can be at my wedding without her "trauma" being triggered. Posted by u/Strong-Emu7954 - 20,800 votes and 3,072 comments They've known for months and didn't mention the wedding around OP once. Find a new unit of supportive folks, maybe animals, do things you love, do this for yourself! The ring can be sold to help guarantee your care. They sat OP next to him because they all hoped she wouldn’t bring her husband. I uninvited my parents from my wedding because they will not pro ose not to behave like they did at my sister's wedding where they ruined it. Even if it isn't a wedding, imagine what it would be like on a very important day to have it ruined. Our daughter, also did not attend for the same reasons. They got themselves fired. You could even ask if you have done something wrong to make them feel like your wedding is less special or less celebrated. Let alone the shit feeling of being unwanted somewhere. But he asked me again, and again. Posted by u/wormhole222 - 10,782 votes and 777 comments Hi all! I (18F) recently attended my cousin A's (25F) wedding in Australia. Like, on a person's wedding day they have so much emotional stuff to process and appreciate and getting pranked takes away from that. Posted by u/UnlikelyAd5151 - 7,814 votes and 4,463 comments There was a great story on Reddit awhile back where a MIL bought a white wedding dress to wear to her son’s wedding. My dad paid for everything. But still it's only a 3 year difference and at 2/3 years old, you don't really remember spending time with your friends so still strange logic to me as well. It’s really cultural. I intervened, Shirley started yelling at me, and I yelled back. I (26F) got married to Jack (26M) in august. Would you like people saying "i thought it was ok, OP is overreacting"? 13 votes, 29 comments. Everybody else does. Then my sister started to fight over this. I F30 don't have the best relationship with my husband's mom. 12. Backstory. I'm not a bridezilla upstaging and ruining my 30k+ wedding?? This wedding took 3 full years to plan and prepare for. OP'S sister is older than her, so if she was friends with the best friend as babies/toddlers she would technically have known her longer. She told me that the wedding was childfree, which I understand, so I asked my best friend (35M) if there was anyway he could watch my son (which he was under no obligation whatsoever to do) and he agreed. I feel like given we're deciding that OP is the AH for disrupting wedding procedures because she didn't understand appropriate behavior for wedding functions, it might be a bit more appropriate to call it ESH, since that equally applies to the nephew's parents for bringing him to the reception in the middle of a meltdown and letting him run rampant. Nov 22, 2022 · A post about a recently married woman who is getting an annulment after her mother-in-law's "freakout" over her wedding dress has gone viral on Reddit, where it received 20,100 upvotes at the time The closest I've seen is at a wedding shower or bridal shower someone in the wedding party (generally the maid of honor) jotting down who gave what as the gifts are being opened. MIKE RUINED the celebration. Me not having money is irrelevant to the story beyond me not being able to afford wedding present for my sister; my present was it sit down my divorced mother and father and step parents who couldn’t be within 500m of each other, show them the seating plan and tell them if they couldn’t be civil and behave like adults for 1 day for my sister then they weren NTA but I don't even think it was the people gossiping that ruined the wedding - he did a pretty good job of that himself. I said no everytime. Tell your boyfriend that your family is just messed up and don't bring him near them, if your family is out of sight from him and you don't bring up them talking badly about him then Me 26F and my fiancé 28M been engaged for 4 months, we're planning on having our wedding on October 18th, My future mother in law kept annoying me and sending me suggestions for choosing the right wedding dress, and said that she knew better and tried to get me to approve of wedding dresses that she chose and when she couldn't enforce her decision she demanded that I take her with me to buy Then suddenly the wedding is ruined because all people will remember is the black hole of humiliation that was the brother. It's an invitation, not a court summons. It was extremely small, my dad and brother, his parents and sister/husband. You assumed. My fiance and I both had a discuss and both agreed that we don't want my nephew at our wedding which will be happening in 2 month. Also if she managed to ruin your dress, dont get a new one. It was awful. She got extremely defensive and refused to pay for anything. As long as she gets married, then the wedding isn't ruined. They had 2 days to find a new venue and we l found out from others they are super upset. My family says I ruined her wedding. This is a very self centered view of the world. At the very least I would insist on paying for cleaning/restoration at the business of the bride's choice to make sure the dress wouldn't be forever AITA: my sister has tried to ruin my relationship/wedding and now wants my support for a serious health issue Backstory/hazing: My whole life my sister had to be better than me and talk down to me about everything from my appearance, friends, dating life, pets, jobs, and any other life choices I’ve made. Ignore the near hysterical cries of 'ruining' her wedding. This was not the first and wasn’t the last. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to… Our wedding is in February. Now here's where I may be an asshole. Where he can choose your happiness at your own wedding over placating friend and mom. the following is copied from an earlier Reddit post. We all started hanging out at the same time - taking trips skiing, to Florida, dinners every weekend, hanging out with family, etc. This Is Not A Debate Sub On the day of my wedding i had everything ready in my room. Wondering if he made the right decision, the husband-to-be detailed the situation in We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Posted by u/Neither-Glove-4355 - 12,496 votes and 1,053 comments Not to mention, absolutely NO ONE should actually bring their toddlers to a wedding. my cousin blasted me on social media later saying I excluded all the women from the wedding because my wife was so insecure she couldn't handle another woman's presence at her wedding. So that's three people out of hundreds that don't think I'm an asshole. How did he exaggerate? In the most literal, bare bones description of the situation, they ruined her birthday cake at a special occasion meant to cheer her up right after she got out of the hospital, and upset her so badly that she cried. After our wedding we went to an art exhibit with our kids & his brother & I have some dope videos of everyone but me killing it on drums that looked like neon mushrooms. He told the boys they ruined her birthday but I told him he exaggarated with this statement. Two years ago my other cousin, Linda's sister Lily got married and Cerrie ruined the wedding by throwing a tantrum, and destroying the cake because she was jealous that Lily's daughter was the flower girl. Sep 18, 2023 · My birthday was ruined and after I wouldn’t come out of my room. I will not give her the opportunity to ruin my wedding a second time. In a recent post shared to the popular “Am I The A**hole?” Reddit The correct title would be: “AITA for showing up at my ex’s wedding in a wedding dress” Who, apart from the actual bride, goes and buys a dress for a wedding that has the term “wedding dress” in the name. It's fully down to her cousin deciding to not accept no for an answer, and making the issue of her non-attendance into a loyalty test for the rest of the family. I suggested she pay for the ruined cake and she looked at me like I was crazy. Just tell her that paying for her own gown will clear the debt she owes for your wife’s dress (she is never going to pay you anyway). Posted by u/Tiny-Pen-2289 - 12,564 votes and 4,033 comments 6K votes, 3. This weekend my cousin got married and, unknowingly, my mom states that I ruined the wedding and that her side of the family will no longer be speaking to us. I on the other hand never wanted a wedding dress, I hate how I feel in dresses and when I was 10 no family member could make me wear one. My wife picked up our grandkids, got them dressed and attended the wedding. You're out $250 on a dress you can't return or really wear for any reason other than the now-cancelled wedding. Go enjoy your wedding day and don't give this mean spirited, jealous woman a second thought. There’s no way the red wine wave was an accident. And any "prank" that takes place at a wedding that doesn't also have the explicit approval of the wedding couple is a "prank" on the couple as well & a huge AH move in general. The wedding ceremony was in the backyard a few months prior and the wedding "reception" was a taco buffet at my friend's punk bar. And when they cannot explain, ask why they felt your wedding was the appropriate place to have their little game. The bride was very happy with you even if she couldn't risk saying it. My fiancèe went shopping for the wedding dress. Bylaw said no wedding or huge fine. I called her a bigot and we left. Oct 2, 2024 · Even a low key wedding is still a wedding but you feel like they are treating it like a birthday party and that's a bit hurtful after you have showed up for all of them over the years. If your family cares more about whether a 4 year old gets to go to a wedding and/or reception (which, as the only child there, won't be any fun for him) than they do about celebrating you and your new husband, then that will make the decision about which family to spend the holidays with True. My cousin and my sisters best friend take my side, and now they say they won’t be a bridesmaid until sister apologizes and let’s me be in the wedding again. Ideally you would only have people you like in your wedding, but realistically the only way to achieve that is to offend people. Jane also expressed remorse for the one night stand which happened before David ruined the wedding. As I have told many of my friends regarding this subject "you have every right to have the exact wedding you want- and your guests have every right to tell you 'no' and not attend. I then needed to go to the toilet and when I came back my mother in law was gone. But there's absolutely no guarantee that whatever she did on that wedding day would not be repeated on this one. 5K comments. Why I was the ahole: I ruined my husband's wedding, embarrassed him in front of his friends and family, and sent him one text about a divorce. I can only imagine the grief my sister is going through. ” WHAT THE ACTUAL FUDGE. It was cool as hell. Any posts related to cheating- including "telling on" someone for cheating (or not). This is simply a high handed manipulation tactic. Op’s whole post screams “missing reasons”, the vibe was off but no example of why, this bride is trying to be a part of the family, ok since when is that frowned upon, but again no explanation, and finally they are getting married after 8 months, at age 23 not surprising, regardless of op’s disapproval. But in this case I think the main issue is the ex dressed herself in a wedding gown, not just in red. AITA here? TL;DR fiancee can get similar dress for around $100 with shipping online but wants to blow over $1000 at a local wedding dress boutique aita for saying to get a cheaper one online? EDIT: Emma found this thread, it was a mistake to post here and im sorry i posted our problems on reddit, iata NTA, at all. OP glosses over how their mom "ruined" Jack's wedding day but I'm going to guess a decent part of it would involve wearing white, possibly even lacy. . I apologize because brevity is NOT my strong suit. These people sound really fucking annoying, no wonder the BIL didn't grow past college. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I arrived at the wedding today and found that it was not childfree. AITA For not speaking to my mother ever again (She ruined my wedding and plotted against me) A little context here I am the younger brother, my sister is older than me by 9 years and has no job, I have a full time career. It’s horrible for everyone involved. Particularly when family is invited to the wedding and family is who watches your kids. ) OP didn't ruin the brother's marriage. Not every mistake crosses into asshole-territory but people often treat these posts like there is a binary wrong/right side of things and the person in the right is basically entitled to do/say whatever they want at that point. It is impossible that they spent months planning a wedding in which OP is supposed to be a bridesmaid and wedding talk didn't come up once in all the weekends OP spent at her dad's. If I were you I would have went to the wedding alone and maintained the relationship with the family but it's in the past now so no point in thinking about it. (No, you didn't get that person fired. I wasn’t sure what had happened but i just thought she maybe got called away to do Posted by u/Specialist_Hour_2436 - 7,320 votes and 3,229 comments 1. The fact that this had to happen now, when op is getting married and should be bonding with her her mother smacks of SIL marking her territory- even if the dress hadn't been ruined the moment had been Posted by u/Disastrous-Split-518 - 2,675 votes and 200 comments Me 26F and my fiancé 28M been engaged for 4 months, we're planning on having our wedding on October 18th, My future mother in law kept annoying me and sending me suggestions for choosing the right wedding dress, and said that she knew better and tried to get me to approve of wedding dresses that she chose and when she couldn't enforce her decision she demanded that I take her with me to buy But I would never tell my friend they "ruined my wedding ceremony" unless they like, actually ruined it. Throw away, husband on Reddit. Like, why would anyone ever want to even do that. Help keep the sub engaging! I also mentioned the wedding… Well turns out backyard weddings need a permit, which they did not have. She died about five years ago in a car accident. I've been thinking about this phrase a lot lately, about how unfair it is. Since the wedding, I wore it on a few occasions because it’s basically the only one fancy dress I own. My daughter and I decided to spend the evening with his ex. OP offered to sit the wedding out to not cause drama, and the bride insisted on her going . AITA for breaking up with/ghosting/cutting contact with _ (or not) AITA for dating _ (or not) AITA for doing sexual act _ (or not) AITA for being attracted to _ (or not) Any reproductive autonomy decision. It's, sadly, a fairly common experience for us to find that a friendship that we valued highly was not nearly as valued by the other person. Good DJ. My brother's wedding update - 3 days later (Added after initial posting) So my grandparents actually called me the following morning asking if i got invited to the wedding, i said no and they were soo mad. A few days after the wedding my daughter miscarried again while Debbie and Neil was on their honeymoon. My wife, children, and spouses normally rent a house by the beach for Labor Day and because of continued bad blood between Debbie and the rest of the family they aren’t invited. She then tried to get on my good side and started overly praising everything I do and sometimes even copying me like that one time when she LITERALLY dyied her hair purple just like mine and when everyone pointed out how ridiculous she looked, she actually blamed me My sister knows this, so I assumed with her asking me to be in the wedding, that the wedding would be childfree. This is where the issue started: My fiancèe showed the wedding dress to my sister. She knew her boyfriend wanted to propose to her at my wedding. Sep 22, 2022 · In the post titled "AITA for leaving my husband's brother's wedding after I got told to sit with 'formal guests?'" the 26-year-old woman said she and her husband, 32, got married about six months ago. I reminded her that I would not be comfortable around children and expressed my disappointment that she would invite me to be in a wedding that is not childfree. So you will get the wedding you want but be aware that there are costs". You are absolutely, one hundred percent, without question, a bridezilla. Imagine what it would be like if someone did something like this to you. Unfortunately my mom and sister started telling me how cruel it was to ruin a wedding and that it’s not about me it’s about the bride , my dad ended up arguing with my mom about how it isn’t cruel and no 16 year old should have to plan and help organise a wedding as that is what MOHs do and it would be to stressful and should go to an We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Around 10 weeks into my pregnancy I suffered a miscarriage and then I returned home to find my husband in bed with my sister. Also this was a destination wedding so I'm sure she had plenty of time to 2nd guess or rethink whether this was actually a good idea or not. You are a bridezilla. Wear the ruined dress down the aisle and answer truthfully when people ask about it. First by thinking a dress can ruin a wedding (celebrating a union with her life partner who she loves should be the focus), and Second by the aforementioned snobbery/greed. 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